The Comparison Game | Day Five

By: Megan Gover | To download the first week of this series, click here. 

Instead of exposing our deepest insecurities through comparing ourselves inferiorly, superior comparisons uncover the deep, conceited pride rooted in our hearts. While measuring our worth, talent, and beauty against others might seem like a confidence boost, superior comparisons ultimately deflate the joy of our true identity.

Today, we are going to look at how comparing ourselves to others to inflate our ego ultimately allows pride and ungratefulness to reign in our hearts. Spend a moment in prayer, asking the Lord to humble you as you begin to uproot areas of pride in your life.

 

Pride

For starters, is there a difference between being proud and being prideful? How would you explain this to a fourth grader? 

 

What areas of your life do you take the most delight in? (Beauty, talent, walk with the Lord, etc.) Do you find this specific area to be a source of arrogance? How so?

 

There are things we can be proud of—like a friend making the winning spike in the volleyball championships or your older sister getting into her dream college—that are not selfish and conceited. However, the moment we start thinking of ourselves higher than we ought to, we find them stealing our joy.

 

Read Jeremiah 9:23-24.

 

What examples are provided in these verses for what not to boast in?

 

Essentially, things we take healthy pride in can also become our source of haughty pride.

 

However, what does the Bible note we can boast in?

 

The Bible is anything but lacking when it comes to talking about pride. Let’s visit some of these passages to see how destructive selfish pride can be. Write out the main gist of these verses:

 

Proverbs 8:13 –

 

Proverbs 16:18 –

 

Proverbs 29:23 –

 

Proverbs 16:5 –

 

What is the overall takeaway of God’s view of pride?

 

It’s interesting how the Bible likens those who are prideful as being of low position while people strutting arrogance think very highly of themselves. Why do you think that is?

 

Here are some examples of pride bringing someone low. Match the person to the Scripture

 

Satan –

King Nebuchadnezzar –

Pharisees –

A.   Daniel 4:28-34

B.    Matthew 23:1-12

C.   Isaiah 14:12-20

 

What is the opposite of pride?

 

When we allow comparisons to favorably skew our identity, our focus is centered on our own desires, not the Lord’s. However, as believers in Christ, we must allow His humility to be the shaping force of our actions.

 

Read Philippians 2:5-11.

 

What jumps out to you in these verses?

 

How often do you find yourself taking on the nature of being a servant?

 

How do you personally feel convicted to live out Christ’s humility today?

 

Ungratefulness

Another by-product of comparing ourselves in a superior way is ungratefulness. In moments when we recognize we have the better car, the newest iPhone, or the most expensive house on the market, we find ourselves gloating instead of being grateful. After all, everything we are given is a gift from the Lord, but it’s hard to see it from that perspective when we are blinded by our pride.

 

Read 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18.

 

When do we rejoice?

 

When do we pray?

 

When do we give thanks?

 

Why do we do all these things?

 

Instead of cultivating conceit, let’s begin to uncover all the things we are undoubtedly blessed with. What are some areas you often find pride in and need to start praising the Lord for?

 

End this time thanking Him for His blessings, grace, and humility!